There are any variety of compliments I would love mentioned at my funeral, “He was trustworthy, humble, godly, form, considerate, compassionate, beneficiant… and the listing might simply proceed.”
However there may be one praise, perhaps greater than any of the others, I hope will likely be mentioned of me:
He was the identical individual at house as he was in public.
In some regards, I can consider no larger reward to supply an individual. It encompasses most of the adjectives above, however provides an added ingredient: That was his true self—each in public when individuals have been watching, and at house when nobody was watching.
My grandfather handed away final December on the age of 99. He was a pastor to many his complete life. At his funeral, my mother provided these phrases, “I would like you to know that my father was the identical man at house as he was in public.”
It was her need for everybody to know one thing they might by no means know. My grandfather was the identical loving man when he bought house within the night as he was in entrance of the church on Sunday. He didn’t simply fake to be trustworthy, form, and compassionate, that’s who he was.
And I can consider no higher, extra encompassing reward.
Think about this:
That flatter presupposes that you simply lived a life worthy of praise.
That flatter communicates that you simply represented your self truthfully in public.
And it communicates that you simply remained true to your character all through your complete life—to the very finish.
Oh, I suppose it’s attainable to attempt to conceal your faults out of your partner and kids, however there may be solely a lot you possibly can conceal and just for so lengthy. The life you reside in secret will ultimately be made recognized. And often, sadly, it’s your household who will see it first.
We work so arduous to maintain up our public picture. And it’s actually attainable to painting a pretend life within the public eye. However if you get house on the finish of the day, and spend time with the individuals you’re round probably the most, your true colours start to come back via. What number of celebrities have been uncovered for his or her true self by the best way they conduct themselves at house?
To be the identical individual at house as you publicly painting to others is a consistency not everybody achieves.
Paradoxically, it’s at house, with the individuals we love probably the most that we must be at our best possible. However that’s, sadly, not at all times the case.
So how will we obtain this praise?
It appears to me there is just one manner: You reside an exemplary life in each private and non-private, and also you proceed it till the very finish.
Perhaps that’s the rationale it’s the praise I most need mentioned at my funeral. It could actually solely be achieved by changing into the individual I wish to be.