This week has been so wonderful! I promise that I’ll get again to deal with initiatives subsequent week, and I’m nonetheless going to work as laborious as I can to satisfy my aim of ending the lavatory by the top of June. However this final week, house initiatives have been the very last thing on my thoughts.
As you in all probability know, Matt and I purchased a wheelchair van final week. For those who missed that story, you’ll be able to examine it right here. We knew the van was going to be delivered final Saturday, however we didn’t know what time. So Matt bought up early, and I bought him able to exit into the world for the primary time in years.
Sadly, by the point the van was delivered and the entire paperwork was signed, it was fairly late within the afternoon, and Matt was too exhausted to go anyplace. I did get him into his wheelchair and loaded up within the van in order that I may follow attaching the entire straps and the seatbelt, after which we went for only a very brief drive round our neighborhood. We drove for lower than 5 minutes, after which he was able to go house and lie down in mattress.
He had requested me about the opportunity of me staying house from church on Sunday morning in order that we may go for a drive and out to eat, however in a while Saturday night, he determined that I ought to go forward and go to church on Sunday, and we’d plan one thing for the following day because it was a vacation.
So Monday morning got here, and I wasn’t certain if he was going to rooster out (I imply, simply take into consideration what this should really feel like after being housebound for 13 years), however he bought up early and was decided to go away the home. He was excited and nervous and emotional. We each agreed that it doesn’t matter what occurred, we wouldn’t panic or get pissed off. If one thing occurred the place he felt panicked or overwhelmed, I might merely load him up within the van and drive straight house. I wished him to really feel snug and relaxed and know that I wasn’t going to maintain him out in opposition to his will. He was accountable for the place we went and the way lengthy we stayed out.
I’m so glad that we have now the wonderful wheelchair ramp from the again studio door that results in the carport, as a result of it’s really easy for him to get out and into the van. And I ABSOLUTEL LOVE that we bought a rear entry van! I can park anyplace and nonetheless get Matt out and in of the van simply. I’m not confined to parking within the particular wheelchair accessible parking that has the house on the facet for van entry.
And right here was Matt on Monday morning, about to get into the van for his first actual outing in about 13 years. He was emotional, however excited, and giving me a fist pump within the air. (Sorry that these subsequent three footage are blurry. They’re really screenshots from movies that I took. I’ll share the movies later on my Instagram tales.)
And since I didn’t need ANYTHING doubtlessly ruining this outing for us, I didn’t change his shirt earlier than we left, so he had a shirt on with remnants from the earlier night’s dinner that he ate (and spilled on himself) whereas reclining in mattress.
I additionally didn’t try to take away his Hoyer raise sling from beneath him (that the inexperienced factor you see). These sorts of issues (like altering shirts) appear straightforward and easy to most of us. However they completely deplete Matt’s vitality. And I may simply see me altering his shirt and eradicating the Hoyer raise sling, after which him convincing himself that he was too exhausted to really go away the home. I used to be decided that that was NOT going to occur. So we headed out as is — soiled shirt and Hoyer raise sling. And actually, I couldn’t have cared much less. There have been rather more necessary issues at work right here than to fret a few soiled shirt and a Hoyer raise sling. As he will get extra used to going out, and as we study collectively the best way to navigate this new chapter, we’ll each get higher at it.
Anyway, as soon as I bought him all secured within the van, he appeared fairly relaxed! I needed to put a t-shirt below the shoulder strap in order that it wouldn’t rub in opposition to his neck, however we’ve since realized a a lot simpler approach to try this in order that the naked strap gained’t damage his neck.
We went to Rosa’s Cafe for breakfast, and as soon as we ordered and headed for a desk, he bought fairly emotional. I imply, y’all! This was his first time consuming within a restaurant in 13 years! And seeing him get emotional made me emotional as properly. I’m certain folks have been questioning what the heck was happening with the couple crying in Rosa’s. 😀
We had such a good time having breakfast collectively, and I used to be so glad that we went for breakfast as a substitute of lunch as a result of they’re not busy in any respect within the morning. I believe it could have been much more overwhelming had we gone for lunch and needed to work across the lunch crowd.
After our leisurely breakfast, we headed to Lover’s Leap at Cameron Park. For those who ever go to Waco and do a tour with Waco Excursions, this is without doubt one of the locations they’ll convey you. We noticed two vans stuffed with vacationers whereas we have been there.
It was an ideal day with stunning climate, and we each loved spending a number of the day outside at such a lovely spot within the metropolis. After that, we headed to Sonic to get some chilly treats. After we bought house, I bought Matt out of the van and bought him located inside, after which handed him his Sonic orange slush. He took a sip, and with an enormous grin on his face, he stated, “This tastes like victory!” 😀 (I do know I’ve already shared that half, nevertheless it bears repeating. Our outing was a HUGE victory!)
I couldn’t consider how easily all the things went. I had ready my thoughts for some bumps within the street — hassle getting Matt safe within the van, or a spilled drink on the restaurant, or one thing like that. However none of that occurred. The entire expertise went off and not using a hitch, and he felt so snug and gained an enormous quantity of confidence being out and about. In all, we spent about 4 hours out of the home on Monday.
On Tuesday, I figured he’d need to keep house and relaxation from the entire pleasure on Monday, however I used to be fallacious! Whereas he didn’t really feel as much as going someplace the place he needed to get out of the van, he was very excited concerning the concept of taking a drive across the metropolis. So I bought him up and into his wheelchair, after which loaded him up at the back of the van, and we took off.
We drove by and noticed the primary home that we rented once we moved to Waco in 2005. We stopped by my mother’s home. We drove throughout, and he cherished being out and seeing the town. After a few hours of sight-seeing, we went to a drive-though and bought a late lunch, then headed house to eat.
As soon as I bought him settled at house after our outing on Tuesday, he was exhausted and stated, “Simply give me two days to calm down, after which we’ll do one thing on Friday.” I used to be more than pleased to try this as a result of I’m not eager to push him too laborious. I do need to gently nudge him sufficient in order that he doesn’t give into fears, and in order that he will get previous the mindset that the van is only for particular events or emergencies. I need to nudge him simply sufficient in order that he understands that the van is for regular, on a regular basis life, and if he needs to get out and go the grocery retailer, we will do this. However I don’t need to push him so laborious that he’s continuously overly exhausted and might’t have any downtime to relaxation.
So Wednesday, I had lunch with my mother after which went to my church small group that night time, similar to regular. Matt was glad to have that point to relaxation up, and as per his request, I used to be anticipating him to relaxation up yesterday as properly.
So think about my shock once we awoke, and he was able to get out and about once more! After his being homebound for 13 years, there was completely no approach I used to be going to say no. If he felt like he was as much as it, I wasn’t going to argue with him or attempt to discuss him out of it. So we loaded up into the van, and headed to Rudy’s for some barbeque. I took a number of footage of him there, however this one is my favourite. There are such a lot of feelings being expressed in his face suddenly — happiness, pleasure, aid, all together with a couple of tears.
After lunch, I took him to my church in order that he may go searching, meet my pastor, and get a really feel for the dimensions of the church, and so forth. After which we did extra driving round by the river in numerous parks. In all, we spent about three hours out and about.
To say that this has been life-changing doesn’t appear satisfactory. I imply, folks use that phrase to explain all sorts of issues, and people issues usually aren’t really life-changing.
However that is. I don’t know precisely what brought about this alteration in Matt — his sudden need to get out of the home and have a life exterior of the home once more — however I’m simply so grateful! I attempt to put myself in his footwear, and I simply can’t even think about. I do not know what it should have felt like being house certain for 13 years. After which I do not know what it should really feel prefer to out of the blue be again out on the earth, experiencing all of these items for the primary time in properly over a decade. I can also’t think about the quantity of worry and nervousness he have to be having to beat, however he’s leaping in with each ft. I couldn’t be extra happy with him, or extra excited for him.
And he’s not prepared to point out down but. 😀 He’s already advised me that we’re going to IHOP simply as quickly as I’m accomplished scripting this put up. And tomorrow, we’re going to see a film collectively for the primary time in….properly…at the very least 13 years. We have been attempting to think about the final film we noticed collectively in a theater, and the final one we each bear in mind was Star Wars: Episode III – Revenge of the Sith (which we each agree was terrible). I’m certain we noticed one thing after that, however we haven’t seen a transfer collectively in a theater since round 2008 or 2009. Then on Sunday, he’s going to go to church with me, and probably out to eat with my household afterwards. This will likely be his first time going to church in about 15 years.
We each agree that we’re going to must settle into some kind of schedule, like possibly one outing through the week, and two on the weekend, in order that I can really get some work accomplished. However this previous week — our first week with the brand new wheelchair van — I wished him to have the ability to get out and about as a lot as he wished to. This was INFINITELY extra necessary than a toilet rework or every other home mission.
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